Dating really short men
Yet, when I think about why I thought tall guys were more attractive, I found that it boiled down to one thing: my own insecurities. While I didn’t exactly have an eating disorder, I can’t recall a time during my adolescence when I wasn’t on some sort of diet.
Prioritizing height on my checklist seemed like an easy way to avoid my issue with my weight. I came to realize that this idea of the right man fixing my insecurities permeated my dating criteria.
Yup, classic stories about that involves heightism. Some people won’t mind if it’s chocolate or vanilla. Some just look out for personality first instead of looks. If you get rejected by women who are taller than you, please know that it’s not YOU. You’re simply not their type, maybe it’s your personality, perhaps it’s your height. As I shared earlier, the taller girl I dated loved my personality. There is a feeling of protection that I get from a taller man, real or imagined. I stopped forcing myself to go out with men because it’s the politically correct thing to do. I had opened myself up to this man that turned out to be perfect even though on the outside, being so short, it didn’t seem like he would have been my type. I could wax on for pages about how wonderful he is to me and how much I enjoy having him in my life.
Before we begin: Here are a couple of fun facts about my previous dating life. We dated because she thought I was confident and funny. Okay, that may not be the best analogy, I’m sure you understand where I’m coming. Some just look out for personality first, instead of looks. Once, I attempted to date a shorter man, who was 5’6″ on a good day. Because I was at a time in my life where I thought that I could not be so shallow as to date a man, or not, simply because of his height. First, I want to say that it took me a while to overcome the height issue even though I continued dating him and several other men until I settled on him.
I’d amassed a collection of subconscious prejudices connected with height. Would he be less confident, less at ease with himself and less successful than a man who stood up at six foot?
Looking back, I think my problems were mainly to do with my own insecurities.
Having heard short male clients of mine complain about their jeopardized status in the dating pool, I can speak for at least some of them when I say that short men believe that women see them as less than or deficient, as if models pulled off an assembly line because they don’t measure up to the others.
If we conceptualize the dynamic along a continuum of developmental stages, it’s as if women see short men as awkward teens stunted in time, desperate at a school dance and relegated to the side wall.
The study found that the social and emotional image a man presents was crucial to sexual attraction.Fun fact #1: I once dated a girl who was taller than me. Fun fact #2: I got rejected by girls who were taller than me because they couldn’t accept the fact that I was shorter than her. He and I went out about three times and all the while, I kept thinking ‘I can see over his head. That’s easy when you are not intimate with any of them. It’s a long story, we dated for a couple of months and things simply didn’t work out. She’s out there, and she will be willing to accept the fact that you’re shorter. But more importantly, if he’s okay with looking up to me and he’s a confident person I have been willing to get to know him better. The reason why I only date short guys is because they are a little more grounded (no pun intended) but I feel like most want to make up for their height in some way so they push themselves work wise and not so much on being a man whore. When I did date a taller guy 6’4″ it just feels like your another girl…I’ve lost count of the number of female friends who have stroppily flung their phones down on pub tables, wailing “I hate online dating, I hate it! ” when, after a little probing, it becomes clear that the "someone" they’re searching for needs to be 5”10, minimum.Theme parks have less stringent height requirements than some of the single women I know. When I went on my very first date with the man who is now my boyfriend, I remember being a little taken aback by the fact that, in my modest two and a half inch heels, I could see clearly over the top of his head.